38: The Counterproposal

38: The Counterproposal

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: True Love

The Counterproposal

A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I never liked rings. I do not wear a high school ring; I do not wear a college ring, and I did not want to wear a wedding ring. This was not because I did not want people to know that I was married, but because I just did not feel comfortable with a ring on my finger.

After graduating from college I finally was about to “pop the question” to my high school sweetheart, Sharon Gail Weingarton, who was at my side continually after I was almost fatally injured during a robbery.

Sharon was the best—pretty, kind, sweet, and goodhearted. However, what would she say when I proposed and said that I did not want to wear a wedding ring? I practiced what I was going to say to her. I thought long and hard. I finally decided that there was no answer to my dilemma. I would simply tell her, and then wait five minutes for the explosion.

So that night I proposed, and afterwards I told Sharon that I was not going to wear a ring. I simply said: “I just don’t like rings. I don’t wear a high school ring….” I expected Sharon to become enraged: “WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU’RE NOT GOING TO WEAR A WEDDING RING?”

However, instead, I merely heard silence. After what in my mind seemed like an eternity, Sharon calmly remarked: “Fine. If you don’t want to wear a wedding ring, I won’t change my name. I will not call myself Sharon Segal.”

On our fifteenth anniversary, I remembered the first lesson of marriage that was taught to me by my wife Sharon Gail Segal as I looked down upon the ring on my ring finger—COMPROMISE.

~Michael Jordan Segal, MSW

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