55. For the Love of Curves

55. For the Love of Curves

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Curvy & Confident

For the Love of Curves

It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.

~Oprah Winfrey

I ran into the house gasping for breath, with tears running down my cheeks, and my chest heaving. I was nearly hyperventilating. Between sobs I managed to tell my alarmed mom, “I’m so ugly.”

Some kids at my after-school program, a few I called friends, decided to give me a nickname — “Garfield,” — you know, after the orange, fat, lazy cat. As you can imagine, this is not how a seven-year-old girl wants to be identified. Whether I got the name because I had big expressive, sleepy eyes or because I was a plump kid, I knew with every fiber of my seven-year-old self that I was ugly, because that’s what everyone said, so it must be true.

My mother hugged me, wiped my tears, and told me I was beautiful.

“Crying just hides the beauty, so don’t cry and don’t listen to those kids. Listen to me and listen to what you know about yourself. You’re beautiful and smart. No one’s words can change that.”

From that point on, the words “I’m ugly” were banished from my vocabulary, replaced with “I’m beautiful, I’m confident.” My mom provided the foundation for my confidence, and because of that, I’m now a plus-size model and body positive blogger who helps other curvy women find their confidence.

I coined the phrase #ForTheLoveOfCurves and explore body confidence and positive self-esteem on my blog, curvygirlchronicles. net, where I share stories of body acceptance and self-love and spotlight inspirational female entrepreneurs working in the plus-size industry or who have a body positive message.

People ask how I learned to embrace my curves. I recently developed a fun challenge to help other women embrace their bodies. I call it the Body Image Detox.

My mom provided the foundation for my confidence.

On social media, you can find so many advertisements for detox teas or cleanses to get our bodies right. But what about getting our minds in the right place about our bodies? When I need to undo the damage from media images that say things like only flat stomachs are beautiful, I go to my detox.

The body image detox has seven steps ranging from actively posting a video on social media about how I embrace my body, to posting positive quotes about body image. I know I’m reaching others and spreading Mom’s message of confidence when I get responses like: “I love the body message that you are sending to new generations. Making every single type of body feel beautiful. Empowering every woman to feel pretty, strong and self-sufficient.”

Wow! Seven-year-old me would be proud; I do this for her, for my future children, for the women who read my blog, and for the love of curves.

Take that, Garfield!

~Kristina Bigby

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