24: Deploying Intuition

24: Deploying Intuition

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Best Mom Ever!

Deploying Intuition

One of the most important relationships we have is the relationship we have with our mother.

~Iyanla Vanzant

I was fidgeting and nervous before entering the restaurant to celebrate my twenty-fourth birthday. My family would be meeting my new boyfriend.

Dinner went smoothly and at the end my boyfriend surprised us when the bill arrived. “I hope it’s okay with everyone, but seeing as I won’t be able to take Sarah out or buy her dinner for a long time, I would like to pick up the check tonight.”

Randal was leaving the next day to finish his one-year deployment in Afghanistan.

I had always told my parents that I would never fall in love with a soldier. I didn’t think I was strong enough to survive that kind of relationship, with all that time apart and so much danger.

We went back to my parents’ house after dinner and my mother managed to steal Randal away from the group for a few minutes. I watched them share a private conversation and a hug.

The next day I watched the man I loved walk toward the plane that would take him thousands of miles away from me for eight months.

I knew that I wanted to be with him. To me, he was worth the wait and the pain that I would endure while he was away.

My mom comforted me. “That boy is so in love with you,” she said. “I could tell from the first moment I saw him.”

“Really?” I asked, giddy but unsure.

“Oh, yeah. Without a doubt. Don’t be surprised if things progress quicker than you think.”

“What do you mean?” I said.

“I can see him wanting to marry you. He told me last night how much you mean to him and I can tell you feel the same way.”

I trusted my mother’s judgment more than anyone else’s and hearing her words gave me the reassurance I needed to go into this deployment confidently.

My mom was right! Randal and I fell deeper in love from opposite sides of the world. With nothing but a telephone and letters between us, we embarked on an adventure neither one of us was prepared for. Weeks later, Randal shocked me by proposing.

I needed the opinion of the person I knew would always be honest with me. “Mom, Randal asked me to marry him. Be honest; do you think it’s too soon?”

“Sarah, love doesn’t have a rule book,” she told me.

Months later, after our wedding, my dad reminded me that I had once declared that I would never marry a soldier. It was my mother who helped me see the truth. She has always known what is best for me.

~S.L. Blake

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