100: You’re Gonna Miss This

100: You’re Gonna Miss This

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Country Music

You’re Gonna Miss This

Story by Ashley Gorley

Song written by Ashley Gorley and Lee Miller

Recorded by Trace Adkins

One afternoon in 2006 my wife and I were living in a house that always needed something fixed. This one afternoon, there was a handyman there — might have been a plumber — and my kids and my dogs were running around him while he was trying to work and getting into his tool box and everything. So I apologized to him several times. Finally, he said, “Oh, that doesn’t bother me. I have several grown kids and I miss not having them around the house.”

That scene stayed in my head for a while. I had a writing appointment with Lee Miller at his office a couple of days later. Writers will often have the idea fleshed out a little better when they come to a writing session, but I didn’t have anything. I didn’t even have the title. All I had was this scene in my head of the handyman telling me that he missed his kids.

We started on this song after we had been working on another song most of the day. I started describing the idea I had to him and he just sat there and listened. At one point, he looked at me and said “You’re Gonna Miss This.” Right there, we knew we had the title. I was playing my guitar, and I started strumming it, and came up with a groove and a melody that we thought would fit. From there we wrote the bridge and then kind of wrote backward from there.

We thought up a few different scenarios to end up with that bridge. We started thinking of the things in life that we think we’re going to miss. Our kids were still pretty small, but we both started looking back on that time in life when you get into high school and you start thinking you can’t wait until you turn 18 so you can do your own thing and make your own rules. Then you get out on your own and have a job and a lot of pressures and you realize how great it was when all you had to worry about was Mom dropping you off at school and going to practice that night and maybe doing a little bit of homework. And we decided that would be the first verse — the one about the young girl who is in the car with her mother and says, “I can’t wait to turn 18.” And her mother turns to her and says, “You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast.”

Then we came up with the idea for the next verse where the same young girl is a newlywed and living in a one-bedroom apartment. She says, “I guess this will do.” And her father tells her “Baby, slow down, because you’re gonna miss this.”

The bridge is where the plumber comes in. It’s five years later and he is working on her water heater and the kids are screaming and she keeps apologizing. Then he says, “That don’t bother me. I’ve got two babies of my own. One’s 36 and one’s 23. And you’re gonna miss this.”

When we finished it and did the full-scale demo, we pitched it to several artists, including Brad Paisley, who had it on hold for a while. But when Trace’s manager heard it, he knew that it was a perfect song for Trace’s voice. We thought it might just be an album cut but then they put it on his Greatest Hits album. One of his singles they had just released wasn’t testing well on the radio, so they went ahead and pulled it and put ours out instead. It took off like a rocket. We knew it was a strong single, but we were still really surprised and humbled when the award nominations started coming out. It was nominated for CMA Song of the Year. Although it didn’t win there, it did become the ASCAP Song of the Year and the Academy of Country Music chose it as Single of the Year, too.

When Trace was chosen to be on The Apprentice with Donald Trump, the song was just peaking toward the end of the taping of the show, so that was great timing for us. Trace was raising money for the Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network, which his kid suffers with. Interestingly enough, Lee’s kid has a similar serious allergy problem, and for everyone who downloaded a copy of the song that night, the royalties went to that charity. Even though Trace didn’t win, he was able to raise a lot of support and awareness for that charity, which was an extra blessing.

So many times in life, it seems like we’re so preoccupied about getting to the next stage in our lives that we miss all the precious moments along the way. And that’s what Lee and I really wanted to convey with this.

You’re Gonna Miss This

She was staring out that window, of that SUV

Complaining, saying “I can’t wait to turn 18”

She said “I’ll make my own money, and I’ll make my own rules”

Mamma put the car in park out there in front of the school

Then she kissed her head and said “I was just like you, but…”

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You’re gonna miss this

You’re gonna want this back

You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast

These are some good times

So take a good look around

You may not know it now

But you’re gonna miss this

Before she knows it she’s a brand new bride

In a one-bedroom apartment, and her daddy stops by

He tells her “It’s a nice place.”

She says “It’ll do for now”

Starts talking about babies and buying a house

Daddy shakes his head and says “Baby, just slow down”

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Five years later there’s a plumber workin’ on the water heater

Dog’s barkin’, phone’s ringin’

One kid’s cryin’, one kid’s screamin’

She keeps apologizin’

He says, “They don’t bother me.

I’ve got two babies of my own.”

One’s 36, one’s 23.

Huh, it’s hard to believe, but ...

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