27: How to Help

27: How to Help

From Chicken Soup for the Soul: Grieving and Recovery

How to Help

Even hundredfold grief is divisible by love.

~Terri Guillemets

Please be gentle with this new person
That I was forced to become.
I need understanding and patience,
So please administer some.

I often feel myself floundering
In my daily activities now,
And some of the things that I used to do
Are harder to do somehow.

There are certain songs I can’t bear to hear
And places where I cannot dwell,
And just folding laundry can make me cry;
(Shopping for groceries, as well.)

If the smell of a grilled cheese sandwich
Has me suddenly weeping tears;
Please understand that he loved those for lunch
And I made them for him for years.

And don’t be afraid to mention his name.
I need that more than you know.
You are not the reason I’m hurting so much—
The loss of my son made that so.

Just offer your shoulder if I need to cry
And listen if I need to talk.
This road that I’m on is SO difficult—
The hardest I ever will walk.

Maybe someday I’ll show you his pictures
And not fall apart at the seams.
Just tell me you know that I’m hurting so—
I can’t tell you how much that means.

I know that the pain will get softer
So be patient with me till it does;
I never will be the same person again,
For, I’m not the ME that I Was.

~Beverly F. Walker

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