I Thought You’d Want to Know

I Thought You’d Want to Know

From A 4th Course of Chicken Soup for the Soul

I Thought You’d Want to Know

We must not only give what we have; we must also give what we are.

Desiré-Joseph Mercier

Diane Weinman suffered an unbearable loss—the death of her 17-year-old daughter, Katie, in an auto accident. In the midst of her grief, she received a letter from the sheriff’s deputy who had been at the scene. The letter made the loss a little more bearable for her and her husband.

Mr. & Mrs. Weinman,

I am sorry for your loss. I am writing this letter to you be cause I have three teenage children of my own, a son and two daughters. If any of them died , I would want to know the things that I am going to Tell you.

I came upon the accident scene on anicy stretch of road. Katie was in the driver’s seat. She had received a severe blow to the left side of her he ad , and the force had rendered her unconscious. I lifted her head to ease her breathing; then I held her gently and kindly until the rescue personnel arrived. After a few minutes, it was clear that Katie d id not survive , but we d id not stop helping her breathe until an electronic monitor was connected to her and verified that she was gone .

I wanted you to know that Katie was not awake and frightened and suffering—she never regained consciousness. I also wanted you to know that she d id not die alone. She died being held by a father who loves his own teenaged aughters, and knows how precious children are. I am sorry this happened to your little girl. Please call me if you should ever wish to talk about that day.


Robert Gross

Lane County She riff’s Department

Not surprisingly, the Weinmans did want to meet Gross. This happened at Katie’s funeral. “Then a few weeks later he stopped by to visit, stayed for two hours and answered every question I had,” Diane Weinman said later. “It helped so much, because he’s a dad and he knew my pain. He was direct and honest—and he has a strong faith. He made a big difference. Even in my pain, he told me what I wanted to know.”

Karen Nordling McCowan

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